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Someone with PANIC: The welcome guide

First of all, I want to express my gratefulness for this particular moment. And I also want to welcome you right here at the beginning of a journey. I believe this journey is about planning. To take you to the place where you could help someone with panic that their life has to offer. In case you know someone with many fears. So they could be a family member or a friend, you came to the right place. And I’m here to assist you.

I know, and I mean, I do know how hard it is. It is hard to decide to ask for help with any mental illness finally. So this article wants to provide my support for you. And you could make your effort perhaps a little bit easier to help someone with mental illness. I would encourage you to check back from time to time. And also subscribe to the newsletter in case you don’t want to miss anything. I write supportive insights on how to be more useful to help someone with anxiety and panic.

In this welcome article

I’m planning to write two chapters only. And it is because I want to focus on two things. I believe the two most important points to make when it comes to being there for someone who suffers from anxiety or panic attacks.

These two titles – the two ‘how’ questions – are, first of all, of course, about your loved one you do care. But the second one must be about yourself. And this perhaps will be unique in the sense of other similar kinds of articles in the same subject. I know, but it is essential to focus on yourself too. It is because of their help and support with anxiety and panic is way more successful if both of you align together.

How to be there for someone who suffers from anxiety or panic?

How to be there for someone who suffers from panic and anxiety is not that easy. I’d like, however, a few points to make for you.

Accept the way they are

Whether you know several people with anxiety or there’s a loved one with panic. I’d say the best is to accept that there’s sometimes an intense fear presence between them and you. Understandably, you are perhaps trying to figure out. Whether there’s something to do with their fear response or anxiety or panic. The truth is that even the tiniest and most innocent responsibility researching question you ask is actually bothering them, and you hardly get to know the truth. Why? It is because if they knew the truth about their fear, it would disappear immediately and won’t bother anymore. They would transcend their fear if they could, so don’t bother them other then accept it the way they are.

Do let yourself moderate before you bother them with dominant smart ideas! 

Even though it is not easy to accept your loved one’s fear response because of their anxiety or panic but still the best you can do is to try staying somewhat calm while they can face their fear while it is as a process is there. I know it’s not very easy to accept, but the truth is that any helpful looking idea that you’d likely to offer for them is perhaps not as beneficial as it’s looking at the first place. It is because of the underlying negativity of anxiety or panic. Therefore most of the goodwill advice is unfortunately not working very well. Any unease is oil on fire, and unfortunately, any goodwill advice can be oil on fire easily.

Don’t touch while they’re panicky. 

During my 15 years of panic disorder, when I suffered from panic attacks, any hug or touch made me feel unease. So I always asked my wife not to do that while I have a panic attack. Then she stopped doing that. So I’d like to advise to you that the interest of them refrain from hugging and touching while a panic attack is happening, or at least be aware of that not everybody with anxiety or panic likes any physical contact for that few minutes.

Paint a panic-free but a meaningful future for them. 

And this future will help your loved one or friend to be sooner than later without anxiety or panic. The meaning is the critical essence here to relieve fear or tension and ultimately from panic. So be a great painter for them, in a sense.

Pursue what you can learn from their fear as well as encourage them to learn from their panic too. 

Why? It’s because of your benefit for both of you. If you lean every day about their fear, you can find it to accept their anxiety or panic easier. And also they can learn from their fear a lot. So be their partner to extract out as much knowledge of the panic-fear as possible while maybe having a good time together. It is meaningful for them and for you too. And for even the fear itself also.


It’s needless to say, I know, but it’s your responsibility to provide security for someone or for your friend who suffers from anxiety or panic. Anxiety affects different people in different ways. But the more fear, stress, or anxiety means to become more vulnerable and less secure. Anyone’s caring and loving security are essential in difficult times. 

Insight on how to improve your yourself to help someone with anxiety or panic

In this chapter, I’d like to offer you some insights about helping you to be better prepared for someone with panic or anxiety.

Assume that you can learn about the panic, in general, to understand them better. 

Absolutely. Start with this Wikipedia article about the panic attack. This article is suitable for a start. Then you can find plenty more online. My point is here that you can improve yourself in terms of understanding panic by study it. Your knowledge becomes love towards the person you care with anxiety or panic-fear.

Assume that their anxiety likely started much earlier then its first symptoms showed up. 

It’s a helpful way of thinking about their fear, and it also could help to avoid blaming yourself because of their panic, and not to make it unnecessarily harder for them then it is.

A few thoughts for parents. 

Your child is maybe suffering from anxiety. Perhaps the symptoms likely showing similarities to social anxiety. And you’re blaming yourself not to be there for your kid the way you might think you were supposed to be there for your child. Don’t do that! I’d say instead of that, remember that you indeed did your best. That’s for sure. However, when you start blaming yourself instead of supporting your child by creating “situations,” where it becomes possible to overcome social anxiety eventually, that’s counterproductive.

Master of diverting their attention before the panic came. 

At anxiety, when the fear escalates into a panic, the best you could do to divert their attention from fear. It’s a mind pattern. And this is the exact way how the fear starts focusing on consuming more presence by letting fearful thoughts to take the mind over completely. But at this point, you could do miracles by asking their attention to anything that is in the present moment and requires their attention.


No matter which way you choose, whether you pay more attention to someone with anxiety or panic or improving yourself by preparing to be there in a better version of you, or both, that’s fine. The point is that you can do both ways quite a lot to help to be there for someone who suffers from anxiety or panic.

I’m here for you too, in case I can help both of you to get to the point when your fiance or friend becomes finally ready for asking for PANIC relief.

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